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5 Ways to Love

Valentine’s Day is just around the corner, it is time to go to the florist & jewelry store. It is great to show your special someone how much you care and shower them in gifts. We should shower our loved ones with appreciation and compassion every day, not just on special occasions. Not only will it be rewarding to love deeply but positivity you put into your significant other will come back to you. Take a look at some of our tips that you can incorporate into your daily lives that will help make your relationship stronger & better.
 
5 Ways to Love
 
1. Be Happy, Not Right – Here’s a simple questions for you – Would you rather be right or happy?  Don’t let pride take over and cost you a good friend or an intimate relationship.  You may be right about a topic, but if you let your friend or partner comes first, you will never be wrong.  Happiness feels better than vindication.

2. No Day But Today - What would you say to your friend or partner if you knew this was the last day you would be together? Would you complain about the television being too loud, or would you remind your partner of their value and significance?
  • Kiss your mate at least twice a day
  • Leave a quick note just to say “hi,” or “I love you”
  • Never do anything you wouldn’t want your friends or partner to know
  • Be fully present when they need to talk or share something important
  • Make the effort to spend some time together each day
  • Give a compliment
  • Be generous in all aspects
  • Smile
3. No Judgment - When a judgment is made, there is an implied belief the behavior or trait being judged should be corrected. However, the person receiving the judgment does not always share the same expectation.  As a result, communication is impaired, connection is deteriorated and conflict ensues. To love deliberately and consciously requires loving your partner with a different filter – a cleaner filter that does not have the residue of past contaminants.

4. Issue Nonrefundable Offers- Small offers make the biggest impact. Do small things to help them around the house such as kids, chores or any extra time off without having guilt. We often give out a helping hand to our colleagues and strangers than our partner, who we will presume will be there tomorrow. Be careful of any assumptions or presumptions; shower those you love with kind offers.

5. Be Aware of Your Own Thoughts & Feelings - Loving authentically is dependent on loving yourself, first. Before you share love, and share yourself with someone give yourself opportunities outside of the relationship. Build friendships and pursue interests on your own.  A good relationship exists when both people can live without the other, but choose to be together.

“You will find as you look back upon your life that the moments when you have truly lived are the moments when you have done things in the spirit of love. “
~Henry Drummond

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